21 Things I’ve Learned in 21 Years

I recently turned 21 and I don’t know how, because it felt like I was just in high school (even though I’m a junior in college now). People really aren’t exaggerating when they say life goes by fast. Thank you so much to everyone that wished me a happy birthday and made it one to remember. I’ve made so many lovely friends through blogging and the community that it creates, so that has been really awesome. Throughout my 21 years, I’ve definitely learned over 21 things, but these are some random ones that have stood out to me!

  1. Being an introvert is not a bad thing, even though it may make some things harder.
  2. Life would be so much more miserable without animals.
  3. Dogs can make you feel 10x happier when you are down.
  4. Finding a creative outlet (i.e. blogging, crafting, photography) is important for your well-being.
  5. Shopping can be a form of therapy, so don’t feel bad for treating yourself (but not too much).
  6. Never turn down an opportunity to travel. Try to as much as possible.
  7. Reading a book can make you feel like you’re in another world if it’s a good enough one.
  8. Self-care is very important and should not be overlooked.
  9. Eating healthy truly makes you feel psychically and mentally better.
  10. Take time to spend time outside and be in nature, because it can be calming.
  11. Your mom really is your best friend.
  12. When it comes to friendships, it’s all about quality over quantity.
  13. Coffee or tea instantly puts you in a cozy mood, so always have it on hand.
  14. Sometimes you need to stay in bed a little longer, so don’t feel bad for resting.
  15. Stand up for yourself, especially since being an introvert can lead to people talking over you.
  16. Dessert is always a must, forever and always.
  17. It takes time to figure out what you want to major in and that’s okay.
  18. Plants and flowers can bring life to a room.
  19. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, no matter how big or small.
  20. Remember to take your vitamins every day.
  21. Worrying doesn’t help you solve a problem, and I know its easier said than done, but try your best not to.

So there you have it, short and sweet! Thanks for reading! If you want to share any life lesson or tips you’ve found, I’d love to hear in the comments!



  1. September 29, 2017 / 7:31 pm

    first off, happy birthday! second, this was an amazing list. I can totally relate to the introvert one. It was between 21 and 22 that I started to have a “dgaf” attitude about my introversion. I was getting way too caught up in pleasing others when I should have been focusing on my own confidence and happiness!

    • September 29, 2017 / 8:32 pm

      Thank you so much!! I think I’m starting to get at that stage too haha!

  2. September 29, 2017 / 8:03 pm

    1. You are quickly becoming one of my favorite people ever
    2. We legit have so much in common, I could relate to literally every single one of these
    3. I love this post & your blog so much and am so amazed by you!!

    • September 29, 2017 / 8:33 pm

      Thank you so much!! This means so much! Ditto to all of these haha

  3. September 30, 2017 / 1:24 pm

    I love this, my 21st is coming up and I may have to do a post like this! Also, I totally agree with a lot of your points, like 15. Also 16 is so important bahaha.

    • September 30, 2017 / 4:25 pm

      Thank you! I love making lists like these. I’ll definitely check yours out! ❤️

  4. Marlene Beavers
    September 30, 2017 / 7:59 pm

    I’m so very proud of the young woman you have become Mattie! You are beautiful inside and out and you are wise beyond your 21 years! I love you…….Aunt Marnie

    • September 30, 2017 / 11:44 pm

      Thank you so much!! Love you too!!

  5. October 1, 2017 / 4:35 am

    Happy happy birthday! Love this list. And yes to quality over quantity with friendships — over the years this becomes even more important so nurture those friendships! xo

    • October 1, 2017 / 12:15 pm

      Thank you so much! And I totally agree! 🙂

  6. October 1, 2017 / 7:08 pm

    Love this list! Having just turned 30 this year myself I know this next decade ahead for you will be filled with even more wonderful revelations. And by the time you’re my age taking your vitamins and practicing good self care will really make a difference 😉 also I am totally in agreement, my mom has always been and will always be my number one best friend!

    • October 1, 2017 / 7:17 pm

      Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️❤️

  7. October 1, 2017 / 7:11 pm

    Happy birthday! I love this type of reflection

  8. Kendra Qual
    October 1, 2017 / 7:17 pm

    I feel like this kid of reflection is so good for us! It’s so good to look back and reflect on all the things we’ve learned, where we’ve come from, and how we’ve grown. Thank you for sharing this!

  9. October 1, 2017 / 7:20 pm

    21 was definitely my year i feel like i grew the most! hope you had an amazing birthday and the best year!

  10. Chelsea Fox
    October 2, 2017 / 4:16 am

    Agree with all of these!! Hope you had an amazing birthday!!

  11. October 3, 2017 / 2:27 am

    21 is such a fun year. I love the idea of putting together a list like this! Such a great post and definitely enlightening to me still! So much still applies and resonates!

  12. October 3, 2017 / 4:57 am

    I love this. Such important things to learn and remember. I might do a list like this for my next birthday.

    • October 3, 2017 / 1:08 pm

      Thanks!! I’d love to read yours 😊

  13. October 3, 2017 / 6:33 am

    Happy birthday! I love this idea! Would you be okay if I did something like this for my upcoming birthday?

    • October 3, 2017 / 1:08 pm

      Thanks! And of course!! I’d love to read yours!! 😊

  14. October 4, 2017 / 1:08 am

    I love to see a young person reflecting back on their life, and seeing where they came from.

  15. October 4, 2017 / 8:27 am

    I like the idea of this post so much, I might recreate it as well, haha!

  16. October 6, 2017 / 9:58 pm

    Your absolutely right things at this age must be take in with a different perspective. And I too feel like my mom is my best friend. However you treat yourself at this stage in life can be life changing.

  17. October 8, 2017 / 4:52 pm

    Happy belated birthday! Hope you had a great one. I enjoyed reading this.

  18. October 8, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    I agree with your point on it being healthy to find a creative outlet. I’ve found refuge in blogging and photography!

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    • October 8, 2017 / 5:37 pm

      Thanks! Me too, I’ve been enjoying it so much!

  19. Angeli
    October 8, 2017 / 5:30 pm

    Happy birthday! It’s good to find the positive in everything and to always take on opportunities presented to you! Way to go.

  20. October 9, 2017 / 1:36 am

    Love the dessert bullet point! Haha happy belated birthday girl! Enjoy college while you’re there because it definitely flies by

    • October 9, 2017 / 2:30 am

      Thanks! And I’ve definitely realized that haha

  21. October 9, 2017 / 4:37 pm

    I recently had my birthday too, turned 23! Enjoy your 21st year and enjoy those last precious moments of college! Your blog is beautiful 🙂

    • October 9, 2017 / 7:13 pm

      Thank you so much!! Hope you had an great birthday!

  22. October 13, 2017 / 9:02 am

    This is a beautiful post. I already relate a lot to your 1st point on introverts, I think what you said is very true. I also love numbers 4, 6, 7, and 16! Thank you for writing.
    I just found your blog and you make such lovely content! I’d love if we can follow each other on Bloglovin maybe? Do let me know!
    Have a good weekend xx

    Joanne | With Risa: A Lifestyle Blog

    • October 13, 2017 / 12:23 pm

      Thank you! So glad you liked it! Just followed you! Would love if you subscribed to my blog too!

  23. October 13, 2017 / 8:32 pm

    Love everything you said here. I love that you took the time to reflect on things that truly matter. Traveling, keeping good friends, and self care are SUCH important things. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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