Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Self Care. I’m sure you’ve all heard of this as it’s being talked about and practiced more and more recently. For good reason, too. Everyone gets stressed to an extent. It’s just unavoidable. And so many people struggle with anxiety to different extents, myself included (especially at this time of year with finals approaching, am I right?) So really any opportunity to simply take time for yourself and put your mental health first, no matter how big or small, is well worth it.

That’s why I’m super excited to be partnering with Desert Essence for this post to hopefully show that self-care isn’t selfish. Of course, a big part of the holiday months is about giving back to others and being selfless as a result, but don’t feel bad for giving back to yourself as well, because sometimes that’s just needed.

I’m pretty new to the whole self-care thing to be honest, but I’ve been trying to make an effort to incorporate it into my days more and more. Obviously, I’m no expert, but with the help of several resources (i.e., lovely friends I’ve met through blogging, good ole’ pinterest, & just plain google), these are some ideas on my self-care to-do list:

Pamper yourself. 

Hair, skin, nails, everything. Why not go all out?

I love trying out new products so I was super excited when Desert Essence reached out to me. And I can definitely say I was not disappointed by any of their products–from hair care to body scrub to oils–they have it all (even coffee-scented, so if you know me, you know I love that)

I’m definitely guilty of putting too much heat on my hair (straightening, curling, etc.) & I’ve noticed that their new Anti-Breakage and Smoothing shampoo and conditioner have instantly made my hair feel healthier. One thing that makes them different though is that they’re all about creating natural products from plant-based ingredients and herbs. No artificial colors or preservatives, just pure ingredients. So, overall your self-care routine is being made as healthy as possible!

Side note, with the holidays coming up, these also make a good gift for others! Use the code DEANDME for 25% off everything on their website 🙂

Use Essential Oils.

I’m just now getting into the essential oil game and I really wish I would have sooner, because it definitely lives up to all the hype. I’m really excited to bring some more relaxed and calm vibes into my life, because you can never have too much of that haha. This oil from Desert Essence has been a go-to lately, because you just sprinkle a few drops on your pillow before bed and it instantly soothes and relaxes you.

Also, check out my amazing friend Lynsey Thomas on IG. She knows what she’s talking about when it comes to oils and is the one who has inspired me to get into them!

Do a DIY project.

I love love love doing these. The process actually relaxes me and just gets your mind off other things, because you’re focusing on getting the project done. I know that might not be the case for everyone, but it can’t hurt to try. You just feel really accomplished and proud after completing them, plus, you save money, which can obviously help in the area of not being stressed, so a double-win. Check out this easy DIY I did a while back that you can customize for Christmas by using festive holiday flowers.

Make breakfast in bed.

Breakfast is my favorite meal of the day for sure. I kind of have a problem with eating it for every meal of the day–however, that might not be a bad thing haha. So taking the time to get comfy & cozy in bed and eat the best meal of the day in bed is always fun and relaxing, so go ahead and treat yourself. Check out these fun oatmeal recipes & this super easy waffle recipe if you’re in need of some breakfast inspiration 🙂

Dress up.

Ok, so this one can go both ways. On one hand, it feels really good to dress comfortable all day–think leggings, baggy sweatshirt, & sneakers. But on the other hand, dressing up can also be a good thing. I’m sure a lot of you can relate to the idea that ‘when you look you’re best, you feel you’re best’ aka you have more confidence. So overall, I guess you could say it’s all about balance–a dressed down day here and dressed up day there.

Treat yourself.

One of my favorite things to do is go to the health-food aisles of the grocery store and look for something new to try–snacks, kombucha, chocolate. It’s the health aisle, so it has to be healthy, right? And it doesn’t have to be just food–treat yourself to a new candle or entire new outfit 🙂

Buy Yourself Flowers. or a new plant or a succulent, whatever your heart desires, because you deserve it. And it will bring some more life and positive vibes to your room! Even if you get some fake ones like these, it still gets the point across haha

Thank you so much for reading! Please leave any tips or thoughts you have for self-care in the comments below! 🙂

This post is sponsored by Desert Essence. All words and opinions are my own. 



  1. November 29, 2017 / 11:19 pm

    I love this list but the one thing that really stood out to me was dress up! Sometimes getting all pretty and fancy really makes you feel good about yourself!

    • December 1, 2017 / 4:12 pm

      I know, right haha! Thanks for reading!!

  2. November 30, 2017 / 7:24 pm

    I love this post! I live for essential oils. Every time I think I am going to get sick they become my best friends.

    • December 1, 2017 / 4:16 pm

      Thank you!! I need to take advantage of them asap, because I’m currently getting sick!

  3. November 30, 2017 / 10:00 pm

    self love is sooooo important! I love the idea of just treating yourself— whether it’s with breakfast in bed or a nice pamper sesh, it’s so important to give yourself attention!

    • December 1, 2017 / 4:15 pm

      Totally agree! It’s the little things! 🙂

  4. December 1, 2017 / 8:08 pm

    Love self care posts! I would totally buy myself a succulent.

  5. December 1, 2017 / 8:37 pm

    I love all of these ideas! Personally, I love to do my own manicures. It’s so relaxing and distracts my mind for awhile 🙂

    • December 1, 2017 / 10:03 pm

      Thanks! Totally agree, it’s pretty calming haha

  6. December 4, 2017 / 5:45 pm

    Self care is important! Everyone needs time alone once in awhile. I’m going to check out that DIY project you listed. Thanks for sharing!

    Jenn |

  7. December 7, 2017 / 7:01 am

    I love this post. It is such an amazing reminder – we all deserve and NEED self care, it is so important to take care of ourselves first. I love essential oils, they have worked wonders for me! Usually I add them to a bath.

    • December 7, 2017 / 5:59 pm

      Thank you so much for reading! I will have to try adding oils to a bath!

  8. December 9, 2017 / 12:53 am

    Oh my gosh, I agree with this completely! Especially as a mom. DIY projects are the best!!

    • December 9, 2017 / 1:53 am

      They really are pretty relaxing! Thanks for reading!

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